Have you ever waken up and asked yourself if you are truly happy? If you are genuinely healed from everything that has happened in your life? Are you passing down that trauma to those around you? Those are the tough questions that we choose not to face on the daily. But, when asking those questions and realizing our inner self needs work, we seem to run away.
Well, Nishea Balajadia did the opposite of that. The life coach took on her passion for healing and community involvement as a way to bring awareness and peace to those who are suffering around her. We had the honor to speak with the woman who left her tech job and take a risk on everything she loved, including her healing.
You are an ex tech worker now stepping into working on life coaching classes & sharing your story, was there any fear when stepping out on your career to step into your “second act?”
Absolutely! My imposter syndrome hits me every day that I get to wake up and do this work. I think to step out to the unknown, especially as a trauma survivor, is difficult and scary. Because I have so many insecurities rooted in childhood, believing in myself enough to think that I am enough, and I am worthy of running my own business. To trust that I am smart enough and knowledgeable enough to pass down wisdom I’ve learned from my firsthand experience is a lot for anyone, but it was crippling for years, which is why I never leaped, until I was forced to, by losing my job last year.
You have survived and shared your story of trauma and aim to help others with their journey of healing, what would you say is the hardest part of recognizing that it’s time to heal?
I think it’s hardest to understand that you are not responsible for what others have done to you, but you are responsible for how you react to it. Realizing that I am not the issue, but what I’ve been taught through other actions/words/behaviors/broken promises/etc. As a trauma survivor, along with being a Sexual Assault Response Team Member for years, I realized that the hardest part to leap healing is that the survivor has to deal with the magnitude of someone else’s actions towards them for the rest of their lives. That’s a deep and hard healing wall to go through.
When facilitating community events, what would advice would you say to those who want to start creating these spaces?
Put yourself in your audience’s shoes, understand what they want and what it will look like for them. Walking their experience for the event from start to finish and making sure EVERYTHING on my end says that it is a safe and healing space. I think that is the most important part for me when I create these community events.
Overall, out of all the hats you wear, which one brings you the most joy?
Haha, so many hats! Being a mentor is probably the most joyful. Being a mentor to my baby mamas is the hardest, but it is where I find the most purpose.
You also say you’re a mom of a sassy teen, what are life lessons you’re passing down to your daughter when it comes to embracing her worth?
Since she could speak, I have discussed consent and the power of consent. I’ve had to relearn that I am worthy of controlling my body, mind, soul, life. As a survivor of trauma, it’s something that I constantly grapple with; I am valuable enough to say “no.” Which feeds into my perceived value and how I treat everyone and everything. I am so teaching her that she is valuable and can be in charge of everything about her. This is a double-edged sword because when I tell her to get her butt up and clean, and she says, “not feeling mentally up for that,”; it’s a whole other talk.